No jealousy or too much of it are both bad.According to Polish proverb 'Sho zanadto to ne zdravo' (Anything that is too much is not good).For example,snake's poison can kill person.But if we every day try a very small doze of it,immune system will get used to it and when someone decide to poison us,we wont be killed.Jealousy is something we all have.Someone has it too much,someone just enough.We have to control our feelings no matter what happens.People who we love (if they love us too),they wont provocate us feel jealous of them.That is ultimate care and love.
Sometimes jealousy comes with love:
When I was a child I was jealous because my mother never expressed her feeling for me.I saw aunt hugging her daughter,telling others how she is proud of her,how much she loves her.My parents never spent with me much time and they never told anyone that they love me.It might sound funny but I need hug,kiss,I need 1000 times a day to hear that I am important and loved.My mum never did it.By the way,later I was reading a book about how to raise children and according to it scientists have noticed that a child is not happy if parents hug him/her less than 7 times a day.Some people are sensitive and need a little bit more attention than others.Loving and caring people always understand it and give it to us.If we love them in return,we shouldnt ask more than they can give to us.Everything needs BALANCE.Now when we understand each other the problem is solved.I know that I love my mum and I was jealous.It is fact.So sometimes jealousy (just a little bit) can come with love.
Sometimes jealousy comes without love:
It is strong and makes us want not to love but to possess.So we possess.If we cannot possess,so we pretend to let it go.We set it free but prevent anyone take what was ours.It means 'I cannot have it so no one will have it too'.I can give you an example too if you need.This type of jealousy is fatal and I really hate it.
Ton,I am very jealous and I am not trying to hide it.At the same time I hate battle fields and hope to reach place where atmoshpere will be relaxing.
So I put my jealousy in my **** and let it vibrate there when no one can see.I just have some rules that I follow in my life:
1. control myself
3. people in relationship are EQUAL and FREE (at the same time HONEST (!) )
4. if I dont like smth-do my best to change it; if cannot change - leave etc.
Lets meet in 20 years and see how successful in my personal life i would be.Deal?